Community Brains:

I’ve found myself a branch out obsession regarding my main obsession of the human soul. I’ve been dedicated in my knowledge pursuits of understanding people, how we think and why we do what we do. How to interact with each other, how to gain influence and how our bodies reflect this since I was very young. I recently started my branch out obsession about the human brain and our thoughts after I listened to Dr. Caroline Leaf, a neuroscientist that explained how powerful our thoughts are.

There was another brain expert whose theory I love, called Dr. Dunbar. He had a theory about brain evolution and social settings that had me fascinated. The first reason I love his theory is that humanity united in thoughts are very powerful as we could see from the biblical story of the tower of babel. The reason God gave us language. This is in many ways a bit of proof for me as a Christian that Dunbar was onto something. Even a favorite quote of mine of Jim Rohn reflects this: “We are the sum total of the 5 people we spend the most time with.”

I have friends and relationships with a fast ray of different kinds of people all supplying me with perspectives and insights to different aspects of life. The more I spend time with people the more my knowledge about people grows. Even our body postures and attitudes get influenced by how we think and this in turn influences the types of people we attract. We are literally creating our social life, intelligence levels and success by what we think and of all these our relationships with other people has the biggest impact on our success. Without people we would not have anything to measure as success or there would not even be a frame called success. We would have no drive for success and we would ultimately lose hope and stop thriving, growing and even stop evolving.

My rough sketch of building relationships:

1. It starts with being visible or to make contact with each other.

2. Then to be Honest and open to vulnerability to build deep connections.

3. Then we may be accepted or rejected by people.

4. Then we learn to gain respect, influence or power with people.

5. And lastly, we must deliver what we promised.

Dunbar’s theory also highlights our very basic and primal need for acceptance and affection. Even if we look at Maslow hierarchy of needs we can see that social needs are a very important part of our lives. The most basic of reasons why we need a social life is that it influences our brain evolution. The need for acceptance and affection comes from a need to feel secure and wanted. When we give this to our children they are more likely to grow into balanced adults. The average child needs about 8 hugs or contact a day for healthy brain and social development.

Being social and having good communication skills, being part of a community and understanding how you fit into your community, knowing yourself very well and understanding other people aren’t just feel good or fluffy knowledge. These are fundamental aspects of human life, success and ultimately how our brains evolve. Without an amazing team behind you, you cannot be successful. They say behind every successful man is a great woman. We can see evidence of this by looking at the most poor or unsuccessful people. They are normally alone male living on the streets. God created Eve so that Adam can have a friend. Friends are a lot like business partners in the sense that everyone we allow close to us becomes our soundboard for our thoughts, branching out our perceptions and influencing our own. Thus, like a special advisor. Without advice from others we cannot become successful. Wise is the man that seeks counsel. Therefore, my conclusion is that team work makes the brain work.

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The Ameliorate Team

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