Emotional Goal Setting for the New Year:

It’s not just important to set achievement or material or even health goals. We must set emotional goals as well. Real success starts on the inside.

1. Why are emotional goals important?

Emotional goals help us to understand our emotions, our values, our behaviour. It helps us to control the influence we have on our circumstances or the people in our lives.

2. How to decide what emotional goals you need to work on

There are a few emotional needs that all people would want to work on. This is because it is a natural need for their personality type or because they are at a place where they need to start balancing out their personality to achieve better relationship results. These are: being more successful or powerful or in control, being safer, more comfortable or peaceful or having more respect or authority or feeling fulfilled, exhilarated or just a need for having fun

Example:

D- Dominance: Need is Power or being Respected, at the same time they may feel a lack of peace because of their winning nature.

I-Influencer: Need is for Fun, Recognition or Exhilaration. At the same time, they may feel that they are failures because they struggle to stick to rules and doing what is right, they often are labelled as rebels. And thus, they would want to balance their personality with emotional needs goals like Respect and Security.

S- Steady’s: Have a deep routed need for Comfort, they thrive on feeling safe and peaceful. But at the same time, their life may feel boring in comparison to others, or they may feel that they are constantly losing so they would have a balancing emotional need goal of Power, Respect and exhilaration.

C-Compliant: have a deep routed need for doing the right things, for building systems for a quality of life that is near perfect. But at the same time, they may feel hyper judgemental, and are lacking deep relational connections. They may also have a fear of being wrong. So, their balancing emotional need goal would be, Respect, Power, Exhilaration and Peace.

3. How to measure and track emotional goals

App: iDone This

or Seinfeld Strategy

or Schedule a monthly review with yourself and ask yourself the following 2 questions. 1. Have I succeeded in becoming more fulfilled in my emotional need? 2. What is the biggest thing I can do the next month that will give me the result I want in my emotional need?

4. How to achieve these goals

ASD has done the hard work for you of researching these emotional aspects and even has a built-in reward system that can motivate you to continue to apply these emotional goals’ success keys.