Growth in your Garden:

This is not a blog post about gardening, but about Being the right person at the right place. I work with a lot of people who work for bosses and to me it regularly seems like they are dreaming about finding the next job. The next job is described to me as their dream job. Some find their next dream job and roughly 3 months later when I call them up, they are again not satisfied in their new dream job. As a matter of fact, most often If I ask them why, they reveal they are struggling with the same problems in their new dream job as in the previous job.

I see this in people’s romantic relationships as well. After a few months or years people start to wonder if their ideal mate is their current mate. I believe the reason for both these instances is that our circumstances may change, but we have not changed. Only once we learn to “grow where we are planted, and to tend to our own garden, will we achieve our dreams. There is a description for this. It’s called destination addiction. We are always chasing the next seemingly better garden with greener grass that we forget to water the garden we are in. we forget to be happy in the difficult and harsh circumstances or process of gardening.

Andy Stanley said: “to find the right person, you first need to become the person you are looking for is looking for.”

JD Rockefeller said: “Every Right implies a Responsibility”

This dissatisfaction of believing the person you are with is wrong for you or the job you have is wrong causes disappointing repeat patterns in our lives. We can only truly change and grow and stop the patterns if we first look at what part we are playing in this. We take responsibility for our role in what is negative, we can control ourselves, we can change from a victim to a victor.

I experienced this personally, going through a divorce, I listened to a sermon of Pastor Andy Stanley about patterns. And he said that if you talk about the problems and you play the blame game, you have not started to heal or grow. You only truly change and heal when you speak about your part in the situation and what you are doing to change.

For Example; You need to remain attentive to your partners needs, to love them as if you just fell in love. In your work it is to do your job with the same enthusiasm as when you just started. To have the grateful attitude that you first had. I saw as I do this, I am becoming more successful. Each day I decide to love my work, love my kids, love my boyfriend, to be happy and to focus on giving instead of receiving. If you want the dream job, be the dream employee, if you want the dream relationship, be the dream partner.

Tend to your own garden, so you can grow and be fruitful where you are planted. The late Dr. Miles Monroe explained that the word fruitful in the bible, does not mean to have children, the word means to be productive. Stop looking at the grass next door and water your own lawn.

As Always, Keep Improving

The Ameliorate Team

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