How to be Happy (not just feel happy):

I found that happiness is a choice, having more things can’t make you happy, even doing good deeds and helping other people can’t make you happy. In fact, chasing these things can make you unhappy. You are solely responsible for your own happiness. Yes, crying in a Mercedes may be more comfortable than crying on a bike. But comfort is not happiness. Comfort is just not feeling pain. Winning makes us feel good, but it doesn’t make you happy. Happiness is not a feeling. Feelings come and go. I can be happy, angry and hurt all at the same time, depending on which one I focus on in the moment is the one I express, but it doesn’t mean happiness stops existing.

Acceptance is defined as the process of being received as adequate or suitable. Expectancy is a strong belief that something will happen or be the case.

Most divorces are filed in December or January. The possible reason is that the couple expected to feel happy over the festive season but had arguments instead, so they feel disappointed, thus feels unhappier. Expectancy that we have from God is good because it is a way to show you have faith. But expectancy of people most often leads to disappointment.

For some personality types feeling happy is a big struggle because they want things done the right way, they are natural perfectionists, critics and judges and my biggest plea to help them find happiness is within the meaning of the word acceptance. Happiness in most ways correlate to acceptance. Because happiness is a choice to accept whatever the outcome may be and choose to be satisfied in them. To be satisfied is to be content and being content is a state of peaceful happiness. Perfection is a shield that helps you avoid the pain of blame, judgement or shame. Perfectionism creates comfort, but as nothing is ever perfect, to build your happiness on the expectancy that things will or should be perfect, will cause you to always be unhappy.

How do we accept/ embrace imperfection, how do you surrender your expectation?

· Have compassion with yourself and others as you would for a child.

· See the good and even beauty in the flaws around you

· Be courageous or brave and decide to remain authentic. There is only one of you, thus you are perfect. There is only one of everyone, thus they are perfect.

· Being shamed or embarrassed isn’t fun, we have all been there. but it doesn’t kill anyone.

· Be grateful for what you do have and how things did turn out positively.

· Many things worth doing, are worth doing badly.

· Enjoy the process, life is short

and goes by quickly.

· Jesus thought you and the people around you where good enough to die for.

· Challenge yourself to get uncomfortable with perfectionism. Yes, leave it a big beautiful mess for a bit.

· God promises in His word that His children will never be put to shame, stand firm on this promise.

Happiness is within your grasp if you choose to accept life as it comes, with it’s ups and downs. You can choose to be happy no matter what your circumstances.

As Always,

Keep Improving

The Ameliorate Team

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