Practicing Patience:

Patience is not one of my top values to say the least. I am generally impatient. I struggle with immediate gratification in a lot of things, especially emotional patience. I want to succeed and reach my goals the minute after my pen hits the paper writing them down. I want heartache to end as soon as I feel it. But as with many of my themes, I felt in my heart God is asking me to rest in Him, to be patient in waiting for the breakthroughs He already planned for me to get, thus I wanted to investigate what Patience means and how to apply patience.

Patience meaning; The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.

How to become Patient:

· Stop yourself from thoughts of how unfair or difficult your situation is. You may have lost the battle but not the war.

· Live in the present moment, this calms your mind and cools down your emotions of being annoyed, angry, anxious or hurt.

· Move and speak slower, this will make you appear calm and people will treat you as calm and you will believe you are calm.

· Listen carefully when communicating with other people, focus on really hearing what they are saying and observing as much details in the moment as possible.

· Tell yourself to be patient, to wait, to calm down.

· Focus on rational and logical thoughts.

As most people who know me would confirm, I don’t deal well with tolerating high emotions and suffering. I usually become annoyed and angry. I want to scream and shout when I am in pain- It’s my brains way to try to block out the experience. But I often saw that feeling the emotions fully helps us to accept our situation and move on quicker. So, how do we allow ourselves to fully feel emotions?

· Rerun the situation factually in your thoughts.

· Name the feelings you think you are feeling.

· Don’t judge yourself or others

· Try to understand why you are feeling the way you do. Emotions are normally in reaction to something.

· Then just have the feeling, until you stop feeling that way and then move into acceptance by focussing on the present moment.

I had to learn to tolerate delays by first allowing myself to feel the pain (of disappointment for example) fully, accept the situation and then be patient. Also, if we remain in the present moment in our thoughts we control the pain of certain emotions better, so after you allowed yourself to fully feel your emotions you must become present in your thoughts – which is also necessary to do to be patient. There’s this saying, let go and let God. Sometimes our own desires and efforts to get what we desire gets in God’s way of doing miracles for us. But I want to highlight the fact that patience isn’t a quality that’s passive, it requires actions from us.

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The Ameliorate Team

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