Top 3 things that delays Success:
- Annetha Kruger
- Aug 16, 2018
- 3 min read
Everything in life is linked to a cycle or a season. If we needed proof of this, we can just look at the weather. In my life I experienced many season changes. My favorite area in which to measure seasons I am in, is the one with numeric or monetary values. In my successful seasons life has thrown me a few curve balls. I have seen first hand what these curve balls can do to my growth.
The first type of curve ball comes in the form of distractions. It’s normally when I lose focus of my value’s, who I am, what I want, my purpose or when I allow things into my life that pulls me away from these. Normally this happens due to a lack of boundaries. A typical example would be if I started a new hobby while not mastering my current hobbies. It could also be friends that want to consume too much of my time, not valuing what I should have been doing instead of having fun with them. It’s accepting work that takes my time away from the people I am in the process of helping etc. The source of these are discontentment or destination addiction.
How to re-focus on where you want to go:
1. Look at what you value again, your value’s reveals everything you are and what you want.
2. Write your personal mission statement, look at where you want to go.
3. Use time management techniques to determine what to add or remove from your schedule.
4. Live in the present moment. Focus your thoughts on what you are busy with.
5. Stay positive – positive self-talk can give you the energy and emotions necessary to succeed.
The second type comes from pain, bitterness and resentment. It is the discouraged feeling we get that could turn into fear and lack of confidence. This is something we can’t really stop from happening to us, but we can learn how to adapt from it quicker. People can hurt each other, whether with intent or not. If we have relationships we can get hurt or hurt others. Often, we will see that certain pains would not have been so bad had we decided to forgive and move on sooner. But making this decision can take some time, since our bodies react to emotional pain in the same way as physical pain. There needs to be some recovery time and healing. Allow yourself time to grieve, then decide to let go and move on.
How to recover from pain:
1. Feel the emotion, allow yourself time to grieve.
2. Forgive by looking at the situation from all aspects, try to understand other people’s perspectives and find compassion for them.
3. Keep your thoughts in the present moment, since this helps you to feel less emotional about the pain. When you are in the moment, the pain is in the past and you cannot change the past.
4. Keep a gratitude journal, being grateful for what we do have helps us to stay or become positive despite our pains.
The final curve ball is like pain or discouragement, it is being let down or being disappointed. This normally happens when we can’t adapt to or accept that our expectations were not met. Being emotional about not achieving what I wanted, not feeling what I wanted or sometimes just plainly losing the battle, competition or other losses can lead to almost paralyzing passivity and negativity if we allow it. The sooner we accept a loss, look for new opportunities and then try again the quicker we will recover instead of staying trapped in the loss by blaming other people or ourselves- resulting in Self-Pity.
How to recover from disappointment:
1. We can’t win every battle or competition, but everything we do gives us experience.
2. We all make mistakes, we are human. Forgive yourself and others.
3. Think positively, next time you may succeed if you don’t give up.
4. We only really lose if we give up. Try again.
Lack of focus, pain and disappointment breaks our speed to success the most commonly. But the good news is we can counter their effect if we decide to do so courageously. It starts with being aware of them, deciding to succeed despite the curve ball and then to enjoy the process into success.
Keep Improving
The Ameliorate Team
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